What Is Primary Codependence?

What Is Primary Codependence?Codependency is excessive emotional or psychological reliance upon a partner, usually someone with an illness or addiction. Primary codependence means codependent symptoms arise in early childhood, and they progress throughout someone’s life. California residents with this issue will unconsciously and compulsively find relationships that promote codependency, so if a child grew up with an addicted or dysfunctional parent, she may have a deep fear of rejection, feel guilty or inadequate, have a low self-esteem and seek relationships that encourage these emotions.

When a California resident has primary codependence, it is incredibly difficult to break, because the issue is deeply embedded into the individual’s identity. Self-esteem, how people respond to relationships and the need for community shape who each person becomes and how they live. This may mean seeking relationships with other addicts, finding individuals who will treat them disrespectfully or even abusively, finding people they can “rescue” or creating relationships based on controlling submissive partners.

A low self-esteem and feeling inadequate cause people to seek codependent relationships. Such relationships are familiar to people with primary codependency, and they obsess over how they can please their partners. The need to please another person is such a priority, that people neglect their own needs and feelings in lieu of the other person’s. When codependent individuals develop a relationship with an addict, they will bend over backwards to satisfy the addict, meaning they set themselves up for failure, anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts, substance abuse, addiction, chronic pain and more.

Symptoms and Signs of Primary Codependence

Common signs of primary codependency include the following issues:

  • The uncontrollable need to rescue or help others
  • Feeling anxious or guilty when someone has a problem
  • Ignoring your own needs
  • Feeling pressurized, unappreciated and victimized
  • Self-worth and self-esteem depend on other people’s approval
  • Obsession over small matters
  • Abandoning or neglecting responsibilities to take care of others
  • Intense fear of losing control
  • Being in denial
  • Feeling abandoned
  • Distrusting everyone, even themselves

California residents with primary codependency need professional help to recover.

Codependency Treatment for California Residents

If you live in California and want to address your struggle with primary codependency, you can find professional help from our toll-free, 24 hour helpline. Our admissions coordinators can address your questions and concerns as well as connect you to professional treatment. Reaching out for help can be scary, but fear mostly resides in unfamiliarity with treatment and all it entails. We hope any California resident can find the strength to pick up the phone and speak with a professional who can diminish your fears. If you’re ready for recovery, reach out for help and call us today.

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